Do You Feel Like There’s A Disconnect In Your Relationship?
Are you in a relationship or marriage that’s beginning to feel stale?
Does every conversation with your partner seem to turn into an argument or shouting match?
Maybe you find yourself going into defensive mode whenever they’re around, as if you’re always bracing yourself for a blowout.
Or perhaps you simply don’t feel heard and have no space to be yourself in the relationship.
When your relationship or marriage is struggling,
it’s hard to find peace in any area of life.
Perhaps you’re dealing with fatigue, lack of appetite, insomnia, or difficulty focusing.
You may feel like you’re in a constant state of extreme reactivity, prone to angry outbursts or excessive weeping.
Or maybe the issue is more subtle—you feel like there’s some basic misunderstanding at the core of your relationship, but you can’t pinpoint what it is.
If you want help identifying the problems in your marriage or relationship, we encourage you to contact us.
By talking to a couples therapist, you can learn to view your troubles through a different lens and open up new avenues for growth.
Our Relationship Troubles Often Mirror The Early Relationships We Grew Up With
All couples argue.
No relationship can grow without conflict, since it forces people to work together and confront their own vulnerabilities.
When the arguing becomes hostile and demeaning, however, it’s a sign that there are deeper problems in a relationship.
Oftentimes, the problems that develop in a relationship or marriage are rooted in the individual attachments you grew up with.
In other words, the relationships you experienced as healthy when you were young may determine what you view as healthy now.
If you had a parent who was obsessively concerned for your safety, for instance, you may find yourself mirroring those qualities with your partner today. But if your partner was raised differently, they may not understand where such behavior comes from. Naturally, this creates friction between your expectations for a relationship.
Because these issues are so deep-rooted and hard to see for what they are, most couples aren’t able to resolve them by themselves.
It’s tempting for couples to see their problems as a “one-time speed bump,” a short-lived hurdle they can figure out on their own. In reality, however, what appears to be a one-time speed-bump often becomes patterned behavior. It often leads couples down the same old roads of misunderstanding they’ve gotten stuck on before.
In order to find long-term healing for a relationship,
it’s essential to seek help from an impartial observer.
By adding a fresh perspective to your struggles, you can improve your communication, eliminate defensiveness, and restore empathy in your relationship.
What’s more, you can find a space to feel heard, seen, and validated for what you’re going through.
Can Help You Breathe New Life Into Your Relationship
Let’s be honest: the idea of going to therapy with the very person you’re constantly arguing with can seem scary.
You may feel that counseling will only cause unnecessary drama and exacerbate the struggles already present in your relationship.
As long as you’re willing to learn, grow, and be honest about your vulnerabilities,
you can reignite the spark that’s been missing from your relationship.
You may have some questions and concerns about marriage and couples counseling…
Learn To See Your Relationship Through A Different Lens
If you feel like your relationship is a lost cause, we encourage you to take heart.
Working together, we can equip you with the skills to navigate conflict and the knowledge to understand your partner better.